Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Their claim is complete crap and does not work. While some people are able to deny their sexuality for a number of years...which exodus will be quick to tout as a success story....still others find the emotional pain to much to bear and leave the program and their faith behind. Still others lose all hope that they will be o.k. and chose to end their lives. The damage that ex-gay programs do to their members is incalculable yet they continue to operate despite evidence of the harm they cause. How much will it take before they are completely discredited to the extent that no one will seek out their services? How about one of the founders of Exodus who, having fought his own sexuality through exodus, has come out to say that the program doesn't work....at all....not even a tiny little bit. Michael Bussee, one of Exodus co-founders, is attempting to set the record straight regarding the organization and the harm it can do....including the fact that the program never helped even its original founders...Michaels words after the jump.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
The news this week has been a never ending stream of the same argument repeated ad nauseum....the President and White House have no intention of repealing DADT. Now we argue about who knew this and for how long as promises where still being made by HRC and President Obama. Each week brings declarations that ENDA may not have enough votes while the christian right does their best to make themselves out to be the martyrs on the ENDA cross. A DOMA repeal is simply MIA with no progress in sight. The list goes on and does not vary in tone or content from week to week though the talking heads may change. The White House throws us bones and activists fight the tied of public opinion of the country at large as well as a portion of the gay community.
It weighs on the soul sometimes that we constantly have to justify our lives, our loves, and even our families.
One talking point in the news lately is "Children do best with a mommie and a Daddie". We hear it everday in the debate over same-sex marriage, adoption, as well as any argument that involves homosexuality in any way what so ever. Its a common sentiment thats most often used to denegrate same-sex parents and to intimate that children raised by same-sex couples will some how grow up damaged. You can hear many average people say it with casual thoughtlessness...even elected officials. Take Mike Huckabee for example, who recently compared gays to drug users. He also has some clear cut views on which kinds of families are superior and which are not(Queerty):
"You don’t go ahead and accommodate every behavioral pattern that is against the IDEAL. That would be like saying, well, there are a lot of people who like to use drugs, so let’s go ahead and accommodate those who want who use drugs. There are some people who believe in incest, so we should accommodate them. There are people who believe in polygamy, so we should accommodate them.....
...I think this is not about trying to create statements for people who want to change the basic fundamental definitions of family. And always we should act in the best interest of the children, not in the seeming interest of the adults. Children are not puppies. This is not a time to see if we can experiment and find out, how does this work?"
hetersexuality is the ideal in marriage and child rearing as I understand Mr. Huckabee. Alrighty. I posit that the sexual orientation of the parents matters alot less than the stability, healthy boundries, and love present in a home. I say this not only as a gay parent but as one who has known the children of same-sex families grow to be average healthy adults. BUT...since so many people idealize the dad/mom model as the ONLY model that is healthy for children...lets examine that shall we?...With the help of some examples of children being raised in the "ideal" mom/dad situation ....and Failblog after the jump...
*Warning Image heavy post*
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Saturday, April 17, 2010
That is exactly what happened here in my home of Sonoma County to Clay Greene and his partner of 20 years Harold. When faced with a health crisis, the county swooped in, confined them both in separate nursing homes, assumed control of both of their finances, sold all their combined property, and surrendered their home back to the landlord. All the while trying to explain away their relationship to each other as "roommates", even though they all appropriate legal documents naming each other as beneficiaries should something happen to the other. All this resulting in Harolds death three months later leaving clay little more than memories of their life together. Their lives together where very nearly erased....and it happened in my back yard.
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Monday, April 12, 2010
Today I ran across an article in Queerty in which the Teabaggers(*snicker* sorry...can't help it) are now selling "Straight Pride" Tshirts. The overall tone of the article suggests that these tshirts are a homo-bashing version of "white pride" style propaganda. This had queerty commenters and the heads of several large gay organizations all kinds of upset.
Saturday, April 10, 2010
The project was initially announced five years ago and immediately saw resistance from the surrounding community in which it was to be built. Since that first anouncement, I had heard nothing more and had assumed that the protest it recieved from the community had overwhelved the developer...Aegis...who packed up and moved somewhere else. Well....I did a double take when I saw in my Edgewire news widgit a story called, "California city Approved Gay Retirement Community". Looking a little further I noticed Santa Rosa was mentioned....I was shocked...Just a few days before I had been thinking about that project and why we had heard nothing more about it. I had assumed it was dead. Not so, it seems.
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Saturday, April 3, 2010
With the growing openness of gay men and women and as they become more incorporated into the fabric of the culture, conservative Christianity has been challenged to rethink their position.
For years the only visible response was “it’s a vile sin”. As gay people slowly became visible, up sprang vitriolic “family” groups dedicated to fighting for the civil subjugation of gay people and the denial of social equality or even basic civil rights.
Although this approach was often phrased as “love the sinner, hate the sin”, there was little evidence that the “sinner” was much loved at all. Rather, she was reviled as being immoral, militant, radical, anti-family, and a threat to children, the church, and all of Western civilization. Advertising campaigns, legislation, rallies, and political movements were generated to take away his children, deny his employment or housing, ban him from civil service, tax him more heavily, incarcerate him if he dare fight back, and in all ways keep him a second class citizen.
But over time, secular voices were joined by mainline Christians in calling such treatment barbarian and un-Christian. And some of the younger conservative Christians had a hard time aligning the “evil homosexual” image with those gay men and women they know.
So a new face of conservative Christianity is arising calling for more tolerance and seeking to share a loving God with their gay neighbors, to welcome them and love them rather than loudly condemn them.
And almost without exception, they get it entirely, completely, and miserably wrong.
Friday, April 2, 2010
Also happening In the Month of April is Day Of Silence, sponsered by GLSEN. The Day Of Silence is a non-violent protest in which teens do not talk during the school day (does texting count?) to help bring awareness to the struggles of LGBT teens with name calling, bullying, and harassment. Since its beginning it has grown in popularity as more teens become aware of the impact of these issues.
In response, the religious community has created The Day Of Truth. You can guess what this is about. Its a direct attempt to counter efforts like GLSEN's with their own religious viewpoints on homosexuality. Except heres they difference....where GLSEN is NOT trying to encourage more people to try homosexuality...they are attacking bullying and harrasment. Thats a worthy cause you would think anyone could get behind. However, Day of Truth itself is directed at negating homosexuality.