tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post5470213363428812729..comments2024-03-05T23:31:44.106-08:00Comments on Gay Family Values: "Its Not What You Call Me...."GFVhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02950236433262366445noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-53030611017693379492009-10-05T22:00:01.536-07:002009-10-05T22:00:01.536-07:00Hey Scottie,
pardon the typos...its late and its b...Hey Scottie,<br />pardon the typos...its late and its been a long day. My brain feels like mush and I can barely put a sentence together. I needed to say though that no offense is taken. sometimes test comments come off harsher then they were meant. <br /><br />You really are lucky though...even in your generation. I cant tell you how many emails I get from people 16-20 that cant talk to anyone about being gay. I just got one from a teenager who's family wont even say the word gay and if they do its always spoken in anger and with a implied threath of rejection. We may have taken a few steps forward by we still have farther still to go.GFVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02950236433262366445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-49508769926390754742009-10-05T20:08:38.177-07:002009-10-05T20:08:38.177-07:00Bryan.
I am, indeed, very blessed, as are many ...Bryan. <br /><br />I am, indeed, very blessed, as are many gay children nowadays. For that I am thankful, as I know there are far too many kids that are not as blessed as I. That being said, I've known many straight people that have fought their own battles based on judgement from all walks of life. "Gay or Straight?" is a major question, but it isn't the only one.<br /><br />I know you didn't mean offense when voicing your concerns over your children's eventual sexuality. Please take no disrespect from my comments. It's merely me reacting, in an age of so much acceptance, to those who still believe everything is as tough as it used to be. In a roundabout way, I think I was simply trying to say "it's not that bad anymore" or "relax" or something to that effect. Looking back, I think my intended message may have been lost in translation. <br /><br />I hope your children are healthy and happy no matter what decisions they make in life. With you and Jay as parents, I'm sure that will be the case. Once again, thanks for GayFamilyValues. You guys are doing great.ScottieCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-43660263925236013782009-10-05T17:40:30.063-07:002009-10-05T17:40:30.063-07:00Then scottie C you must be an extraordinarilly ble...Then scottie C you must be an extraordinarilly blessed person. This is not sarcasm. I am very glad for you and take that as a positive sign for the world becoming a better place one human being at a time. You prove Mr.Stones point about that speedbump being less severe.<br /><br />Not all of us have had that experience. Some of us have had quite bad ones..take Jays for example...go watch his coming out video or his suicide video. His story is not an uncommon one. Its an experience I wouldn't wish on my children.<br />BryanGFVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02950236433262366445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-17808109805312171962009-10-05T06:52:54.574-07:002009-10-05T06:52:54.574-07:00I've watched the videos and I've heard eve...I've watched the videos and I've heard everyone's comments, but I'm still not sure I quite grasp what everyone is saying. Sure, every parent wants a good or easy life for his or her child. I get that. What I don't get is why being gay would make the child's life easier/more difficult or better/worse. Being gay has never negatively effected my life! My hope would be that the same would apply to future generations. What's wrong with just wanting a child to be happy?ScottieCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-14497832844544340732009-10-04T09:47:03.063-07:002009-10-04T09:47:03.063-07:00I totally agree with you. As parents you want to ...I totally agree with you. As parents you want to make it easier for you children to go down the path of life. Being gay in our society is definitely a "road bump" in that path. It is a bump that is getting less severe but it still is there.<br />I still remember when I first came out to my mother she said..."DON'T TELL ANYONE AT WORK!!" She didn't want people making fun of me or talking negatively about her son...<br />Hopefully by the time Daniel and Selena are teenagers this issue will be a "non-issue."<br />JimJim Stonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12387924451130690320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-33842685912922646702009-10-03T11:03:19.470-07:002009-10-03T11:03:19.470-07:00Dreams do have a funny way of coming true sometime...Dreams do have a funny way of coming true sometimes... ;)<br /><br />Scottie C....The previous posters pretty much hit the nail on the head about my use of the term "grieve". If My kids did grow up to be gay than a part of me will celebrate that I will have that in common with them. But another part will be concerned and apprehensive for them, knowing what kind of life challenges await them. Hopefully the world they inherit wont have as many of those challenges. And having gay parents SHOULD mean that they wouldn't have to live a secret life like I did for a while. But, kids at a certain age stop sharing things with there parents anyway, so that might be a pipedream on my part.GFVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02950236433262366445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-19518335020815451892009-10-02T23:21:37.510-07:002009-10-02T23:21:37.510-07:00@ScottieC: he said in the blog: the parents have ...@ScottieC: he said in the blog: the parents have their own dreams for the child, even though the parents might not expressed it explicitly. This happens to every family, gay or straight. A parent who loves music might dream their child becoming a singer, or dancer. A parent who loves sport might dream the child becoming a great athlete, winning many Olympic medals like Michael Phelps. A parent who engages in politics will dream theri child to be a lawyer, congressman, senator or even the next president! Being said that, it doesn't mean that if the child doesn't become like the dreams, the parents will disown them or kick them out of the house. Those are just dreams.<br /><br />Here, Bryan (do you spell it with a 'y' or an 'i'? I forgot :D ) is sad just because he loves his children. He doesn't want them to be bullied at school, be discriminated against at work in the future, just because of their sexual orientation. He doesn't want them to go through what might be an identity crisis for majority of gay in his generation... I think it's a hard process for some individual even with the support of the family.<br /><br />@Bryan: I love your videos. I just found out about your channel recently, and I went back and watched all the other videos too. :D It gives me some hope for what the future might be and gets me through the dreading days in school. I still have many personal issues needed to solve before that can happen. It's like... a dream, that one day I can express myself as who I am, be with a person I love who also love me, have a safe place to call home, and have some lovely children. I still have a long way to go. But a person can dream, right? :)Bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04874760590344049055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-41323788206495056402009-10-02T19:22:06.553-07:002009-10-02T19:22:06.553-07:00Jay and Bryan kida explained in the vide.
They sa...Jay and Bryan kida explained in the vide. <br />They say, and I compleatly undersatd, they want that his kids life is just.. easier, life for a homosexual person is hard even for someone whose parents are awesome and also gay. Is not the family is everybody else that is/could be the problem. <br />And that is what scares Jay and Bryan, the knowin that if they are gay/lesbian they could have a difficult road ahead.<br /><br />That´s what I got from it. I compleatly understand. My family is more concern for me and my feelings that the fact that i´m gay they love me and they don´t want me to get hurt, insulted or worse. Is every parent nightmare. That´s why they are scare, but every parent is. <br /><br />What if they choose a not profitable career( I´ve heard this from family friends and i gave them a speech detaling that they are so many studying profitable careers that now they are too fucking many to get an actual job) Hippies, Punks, Anarquist, Whatever. There is always something that could go wrong. <br /><br />As regards the first question. And what you said about Daniel. This is what i think of the kid. I think he has all the chances to loose in the jungle that is high school. But My heart knows, that with you guys, what you are doing right know. Defending what is right. He will know better than follow the pride. He will make his own pride, and he WILL show them who is the boss. I mean c´mon i see the kid on camera and he is SO confortable, so talkative, so cool about everything. I hope.. I´m sure he will know when to roar. And I expect to be a cool scary roar.SwAmPeXhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10929143737620431869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-33291297500910812172009-10-02T16:51:42.701-07:002009-10-02T16:51:42.701-07:00"I'm not saying that Jay and I may not gr..."I'm not saying that Jay and I may not grieve a bit. We have our own dreams and hopes for their lives too, as any parent does." I enjoy Gay Family Values (the videos and the blog), but why is the word grieve being used here? You, a gay couple writing to inspire others, would consider your child coming out as a sad occasion? I'm not sure I follow that conclusion.ScottieCnoreply@blogger.com