tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post8019789146630370393..comments2024-03-05T23:31:44.106-08:00Comments on Gay Family Values: Transgendered Musings...GFVhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02950236433262366445noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-53154153631544287292009-10-25T19:35:56.254-07:002009-10-25T19:35:56.254-07:00Bryan--
I recently also came out as a male to fem...Bryan--<br /><br />I recently also came out as a male to female transsexual, such as your friend, and I wanted to say a couple things.<br /><br />First, I've read a lot of literature about transsexuality since coming out, but I'm thouroughly un-read on the points of view of someone like a friend, and this has been most enlightening and interesting blog. I loved how you mused on the coming out process, the subsequent relief (right on, there, mate!) and comparing it to the moment in Wizard of Oz where the film turns color.<br /><br />However, I do take slight offense at the oft-used idea that the friends/family of the trans person will be "loosing" thier loved one (but am oft reluctant to say so lest I sound insensitive to the plight of family and friends lol). Fundamentally, the only thing that changes for the transsexual is thier body -- which, I need not articulate, but will anyway, in it's "born" state, causes the trans person anger, shame, hatred, confusion, etc., etc. -- I would know! <br /><br />But the personality of the trans person remains intact, and I hope people love me because of the things that make me who I am, and not what my body shows. I understand that you and anyone else who says that they are loosing thier friend don't mean it in such dramatic terms as I've shown here, but I want to articulate that, for me at least, to hear such terminology, regardless of context, can -- and often does -- hurt.<br /><br />The way I feel is that as I am now, in guy-mode, presenting and being seen day-to-day as a man I'm not makes me feel incapable of expressing everything I am, and what really makes me up; I'm like, some sort of half-being.<br /><br />Well, shoot, now I've gone and made myself all depressed, lol. Anyway, my best to you and your friend, and for good and bad alike, thanks again for your thoughts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-30736832657411113142009-09-14T13:10:47.764-07:002009-09-14T13:10:47.764-07:00I´ve never been in your position. But when i heard...I´ve never been in your position. But when i heard about bananabread, i tried to put myself in those shoes. And yeah it will be so weird, because a big change is happening, may it will be awesome, but the friend you had will go away, and another person will stand there. The love will stay, but...<br /><br />I don´t know, it so weird. <br /><br />My best for you and Carina. I hope life will not be so shitty to her.SwAmPeXhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10929143737620431869noreply@blogger.com