tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post9034641163593204997..comments2024-03-05T23:31:44.106-08:00Comments on Gay Family Values: Adoption Stories...First ContactGFVhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02950236433262366445noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-84760651230244479902013-05-02T02:40:12.020-07:002013-05-02T02:40:12.020-07:00Bryan, you have so many of us standing with your f...Bryan, you have so many of us standing with your family as you make all your moves. It has to be scary but it will turn out so well. I really felt for Daniel in your video. I hope Selena saw my story about the snails. Even famous authors like them! Thank you for the blog post.Chris R.A. Berryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09941585937000644652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-51289396427260038262013-05-01T02:24:18.910-07:002013-05-01T02:24:18.910-07:00Yeah we have their pictures and names. Social serv...Yeah we have their pictures and names. Social services make you a book over here with as much info and pictures as possible. I think it is a good idea as it takes all the mystery out of it.<br /><br />There is even a picture of me and Jake with them. Tense to ask them to pose for I can tell you!orangegoblinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02337969741715932040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-77915625881055848962013-04-30T21:42:43.397-07:002013-04-30T21:42:43.397-07:00@Jim Stone Will do! Selena can pontificate for ho...<br />@Jim Stone Will do! Selena can pontificate for hours on the subject of snails! I know the boyfriend that I will actually approve of one day will be the one who hangs around to hear the whole snail dissertation. :)<br /><br />@Jerry Callender Aw...that will make Selena's day, and I know it made mine too ;)<br /><br />BryanGFVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02950236433262366445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-69924379821512072692013-04-30T21:40:10.782-07:002013-04-30T21:40:10.782-07:00@orangegoblin Hello old friend...long time no see!...@orangegoblin Hello old friend...long time no see! Its good to hear from you again! I understand how you feel about the birth parents but just one word of advice from our own experience...Get Pictures!<br /><br />At the time when we adopted Daniel and Selena we were just so glad to have them and happy to finally be done with social worker visits that we didn't press the issue of getting pictures of family members for that day in the future when the kids would ask.<br /><br />Get pictures...get full names of any family you think you may have to track down in the future...any addresses you can...and any kind of family medical history. Its an investment in her future that will pay off big time.<br /><br />GFVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02950236433262366445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-86272064013534283262013-04-28T14:06:52.360-07:002013-04-28T14:06:52.360-07:00As I was working in my garden this weekend, I came...As I was working in my garden this weekend, I came across a few snails and immediately recalled Selena's letter about her fave creatures, and I saw them in a different light. I gave them a few leaves and settled their rock back where they had found it...<br />Thanks, SelenaJerry Callenderhttp://jerrysfabricarts.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-58150184937426806312013-04-28T10:48:29.596-07:002013-04-28T10:48:29.596-07:00I think this whole incident affects Daniel more be...I think this whole incident affects Daniel more because he was older when you adopted him. Selena was a baby when you got her. It was interesting watching the video and noticing the differences between their reactions. The whole thing just sort of "rolled off" Selena's back. It was so cute when you were talking about Daniel talking to his sister she said.."well..you can talk to me..I am right here!"<br />The whole argument from the right against same sex marriage always includes the phrase "children need a mother and a father." This was even used at the Supreme Court level. This makes my blood boil!!!! These people are NOT thinking of all of the kids in foster care that would love to be adopted into a loving family of any sort. <br />Jim<br />PS.. PLEASE thank Selena for educating me about snails. :)Jim Stonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12387924451130690320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-840642108334671322013-04-28T03:51:31.461-07:002013-04-28T03:51:31.461-07:00Alice meets with her sister a fair bit, she lives ...Alice meets with her sister a fair bit, she lives not far away and is a similar age.<br /><br />It was strange to get used to, even though they are both very little. They don't have the same kind of relationship that siblings that live together have. For me it kind of feels like meeting with a cousin and their in-law parent for a play date.<br /><br />We are supposed to get letters from birth parents and grandparents, but they never write. Me and Jake have met them and they said they would keep in touch but they haven't. Like Daniel and Selina, Alice and her siblings were removed because of neglect. The sad thing is that her birth parents now seem to want to move on. She never lived with them and they didn't used to show up to see in in foster care. The constant rejection of her from them hurts me on her behalf.<br /><br />When me and Jake met with them it felt really strange, but much less daunting than you imagine. The birth father was happy his child had a good home and was getting on.<br /><br />I think when Alice grows up and wants to meet them she will be disappointing in them. Aside from the fact they are addicts, she is already picking up personality from us and the differences between her and them will probably be greater than a teenager imagines.<br /><br />orangegoblinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02337969741715932040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-16436354161220314312013-04-27T20:29:12.336-07:002013-04-27T20:29:12.336-07:00Only when you're adopted can you be certain yo...Only when you're adopted can you be certain you are wanted by those raising you. If you're with your biological parents, you could just as well have been wanted too, but there also IS the possibility that you could have been an unwanted oops baby.Davenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-587902609826926070.post-83768242603310585382013-04-27T18:06:24.195-07:002013-04-27T18:06:24.195-07:00You can tell you truly wrote this from the heart. ...You can tell you truly wrote this from the heart. My maternal grandmother was adopted and no one in the family knew until after she died. It was really kind of scary and sad at the same time.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17959350187726073232noreply@blogger.com