But 2010 also offered us a ray of hope in the form of awesome parents who stood by their children and helped them understand that they were loved and "all right" just as they are. We had Nerdy Applebottom, the mother of the little boy who wore a Daphne costume for Halloween...and Katie the Star Wars Girl. Both of these kids had awesome parents who only wanted their kids to grow up healthy happy and strong. Fortunately we have one more to add to the List....Cheryl Kilodavis and her son Dyson, about whom she has written the children's book "My Princess Boy".
So What if it isn't just a Halloween costume, or a star wars thermos...a boy who wears dresses?! This one has caused the Internet to come unglued and the fundies to howl. But the real question is again, "why is a boy in a dress so scary?"
Some background is in order:
Cheryl is a mom to a happy and vibrant...now five year old boy. Cheryl reports that from the age of two Dyson began to show a preference for all things pink and sparkly(my daughter would so love him). As she notes, she would come to pick Dyson up at preschool only to find him in a dress that he loved. Her solution? Thinking that the problem was merely a lack of choices in boy dress up items she goes to the store and stocks up on karate and band uniform dress up clothes. Okies, all good so far....then comes day two. Mom goes to pick up her son at preschool after having donated a variety of boys play clothes, only to find her son in a different colored dress.
Whats a mom to do? Well, Cheryl admits to what most parents would feel at first: (via WaPo)
He was so happy. He said 'Look how pretty this dress is,'" she said. "I was worried about if the other parents were looking at him, and were they looking at me."Having reached a place of acceptance a year and a half later, Cheryl wrote a book called "My Princess Boy" in the hopes that it would help educate other kids about issues like those her son faces. The Principle of Dyson's school loved it and ordered copies for other classes and word of mouth continued to spread....and with it, the controversy. Dyson's parents have been accused of many things, among those are encouraging his behavior at an age when they could have corrected it...and worse...of using their son to sell books to the detriment of his later development.
The parents had Dyson evaluated by a medical team that included a psychologist because, Mrs. Kilodavis said, "Everything out there is always about gender identity confusion, and I wanted to make sure my child was happy with who he was."
The verdict? He is. He just enjoys tiaras and ballet leotards, but also basketball and climbing trees — all interests that tomboy girls delight in routinely without an eyelash batted.
Much of the criticism began with this interview one Seattle day time television show, "New Day":