First Loves

What is it about our first relationships that makes us into people we don't recognize when we look in the mirror? Normally when we think of first love, we think of sweet things and a time when our lives are full of endless possibilities. But...when looking back, does anyone else have those moments when you ask yourself, "What the hell was I thinking?" I don't know if this is a universal phenomenon or really just something that pertains to me, but it seems that Our first loves have a way of becoming our moon and sun to the point where we behave in ways we might not otherwise....like overlooking glaring flaws in the relationship, ignoring our friends, and doing things that push us beyond what we thought we were capable of. First loves always teach us lessons by the mistakes we make within them. Oh snap Toto...I don't think we're in Kansas anymore...

Being Friends with Christians

By: Craig Rigby

For most of my adult life I haven't really known any Christians. I am sure that some people at work believe in some sort of god and afterlife but they don't really buy the whole bible and Jesus thing. I know because we have talked about it. There is only one person who calls himself “Christian”, but he never goes to church and knows less about the bible than I do. I didn't go to college with any Christians either. There just aren't that many around.


Bryan and Jay have a lot of trouble with anti-Christian feeling, being both gay and God squadders. Many people who ask me about them feel uncomfortable with their religion. I know quite a few people who don’t like to watch their videos in which they mention God. I thought I would try to explain how I, as a judgemental atheist, manage to get along with the Christians in my life.

DADT....Survey Says?...Epic Fail!

Well....remember that study the Pentagon wanted to do before it could sign off on a repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell? Thats underway and boy is it riviting stuff. The survey sent out to soldiers has been leaked and it has some serious built-in bias. Its so bad that gay servicemens organizations are advising gay and lesbian soldiers not to go anywhere near it. So just for some saturday giggles I thought we'd take a look at what was so bad.....pour yourself a tall one and prepare for the smell of failure

Which Way Will The Chips Fall?...

If you haven't been keeping up with the rather momentous news that, Yesterday, a Massachusetts District Court Judge Ruled that DOMA(the defense of marriage act) violates the U.S. constitution. On the one hand I want to offer a hearty WAHOOO!...on the other, I am saying, "well duh...haven't we been telling you this all along?".

The decision was handed down by Judge Joseph Tauro of the the U.S. District Court of the District of Massachusetts, for the cases of Gill v. Office of Personnel Management and Commonwealth of Massachusetts v. Department of Health and Human Services. In his rulling, Judge Tauro explains his decision:

“indeed, Congress undertook this classification for the one purpose that lies entirely outside of legislative bounds, to disadvantage a group of which it disapproves. And such a classification, the Constitution clearly will not permit.”

This is a fabulous outcome by itself and one to celebrate. However, I was looking at this as only one step of a much larger journey up the federal court system....much like California's Perry v. Schwarzeneger will likely be. However, the story takes an ironic twist...and this is where our fierce advocate will have to show his true colors...